Husband’s long tresses are stressing his wife

DEAR ABBY

Husband’s long tresses are stressing his wife

DEAR ABBY: My husband, who has a beautiful head of dark curly hair, decided to let it grow. It is now about halfway down his back. Sometimes he braids it or pulls it into a ponytail. Other times he wears it down and it falls loose. The problem is, I can’t bear to look at him.

He has always been clean-cut and had short hair. But as time has gone on and many of his friends have begun losing their hair, he says he wants to grow his out while he can.

I know that in the grand scheme of life, hair shouldn’t be an issue, but I can’t seem to get past this. I think it’s because of the way he used to look. I can’t talk to him about it because he really likes his hair.

This feels like MY problem, but how can I deal with it?

— TOO MUCH OF A GOOD THING DEAR TOO MUCH: If you can’t look at your spouse because his flowing tresses are

a turnoff, this must be affecting many aspects of your marriage.

Although he likes his hair long, if you address it in those terms he may be willing to listen.

However, just as women should be free to wear their hair the way they want, the same should apply to males.

P.S. I’m surprised his friends want to hang around with a walking reminder that they are follicly challenged.

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